Emotionally secure people feel empowered, confident and safe. They live authentically and stick to their own values and beliefs, even when doing so may rub others the wrong way.
As a Harvard-trained psychologist, I’ve seen how emotional security can also help people have more gratitude for the good in their lives, as well as be more creative, spontaneous and free.
If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, you’re more emotional secure than most people:
1. Can you listen to different perspectives you disagree with?
Emotionally secure people are able to hear other points of view without reacting to them in an aggressive way.
Instead of going to battle, there is a flexible, empathic and non-judgmental exploration of another person’s reality — even during times of conflict and disagreement.
2. Can you set healthy boundaries?
Emotional security is associated with knowing yourself and setting limits based on your values.
Consequently, emotionally secure people can articulate how they want to be treated and set guidelines for how they will respond if those boundaries are not respected.
3. Can you admit when you’re wrong?
All of us are wrong sometimes, but it can be very difficult to own up to it. Emotionally secure people can acknowledge when they’ve made a mistake, take responsibility, and apologize for their actions.
4. Do you know your core values and beliefs?
Are you able to communicate your perspective in a respectful way, even when others may strongly disagree?
Emotional security is associated with being authentic, knowing one’s values and acting in a way that’s consistent with them in all life situations.
5. Can you express negative emotions respectfully?
Being emotionally secure means communicating your feelings in a respectful way that focuses on your internal experience.
Often, this is reflected by using “I” statements, like “I feel” or “I think,” instead of blaming others for your circumstances.
6. Can you take criticism from others?
Receiving constructive feedback…
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